Now that I have crossed the 50 threshold, the lessons have only deepened. If my 40s were about learning to let go, my 50s have been about fully embracing who I am and standing in that power unapologetically. It is a whole new level of freedom—one that comes with knowing that I have been through enough in life to trust myself completely.

In my 50s, I have become fiercely protective of my peace. I no longer feel the need to be everywhere, do everything, or please everyone. There is beauty in knowing what serves me and unapologetically walking away from what does not. Whether it is cutting ties with toxic relationships, reducing my commitments, or simply saying “no” without feeling guilty, I am now at peace with prioritizing my own well-being above all else.

Another gift of crossing 50 is owning the wisdom I have earned. In my 20s and 30s, I second-guessed myself far too often, seeking validation from others. In my 40s, I began to trust myself. Now in my 50s, I no longer question whether I am enough. I absolutely know I am. I embrace the fact that I have persevered through a great deal of life’s challenges, learned valuable lessons, and have the wisdom to make decisions from a place of confidence and clarity. I have stopped seeking approval and have begun living fully for me.

By 50, the idea of legacy starts to take center stage. I no longer ask myself, “What can I accomplish?” but instead, “What kind of mark do I want to leave behind?” Whether it is the impact I make in my family, my community, or the world at large, I am more intentional about how I show up. I think deeply about the memories I am creating, the lessons I am passing down, and the ways I am contributing to the greater good. At this stage of the game, it is not just about success; it’s about significance.

One of the most beautiful parts of crossing 50 is learning to embrace joy with abandon. There is no more room for taking life too seriously or sweating the small stuff. I have learned to laugh more, love more, and enjoy the moments that bring me true happiness. Whether it is spending time with loved ones, traveling to new places, or simply taking a quiet walk in nature, I now make space for the things that fill my soul with joy. Life is too precious to do anything else.

Crossing 50 is a reminder that life isn’t slowing down—it’s just getting started. Each decade brings new insights, challenges, and joys. I am embracing every bit of it with gratitude. So if you are approaching this milestone, or already there, know that it is a time to celebrate. It is a time to reflect. Growth must continue. After all, the best is yet to come.

Crossing gracefully,

Erika